Validation

All my life I’ve sought validation through other people particularly through the romantic relationships that I’ve had. I’ve always had the belief that I need to be loved by someone to be valid… to be important… to be worth something.

As mentioned briefly in a previous post I spend my time do things for other people… so much so that there isn’t anything left the tank for myself. In fact I take it as a personal insult if people don’t allow me to do things for them.

The more time I spend getting to become acquainted with myself the more I realise that the only person who can validate me is ME!! I can’t spend my time begging for acceptance from other people because I will constantly find myself disappointed.

As I was pondering yesterday it occurred to me that I don’t need to have a companion to feel validated… accepted and loved. It was such a liberating feeling… I felt ‘free’!!! I made the decision to take up the things that I use to love doing… cooking, baking, singing, playing bass guitar, reading and writing, entertaining (I was the hostess with the mostest), working out… just to mention a few.

Next month I start my nursing degree, which has been a life long dream. With this chosen vocation I will be able help and care for people whilst doing something that I love!! So it’s a win/win and I’m so excited about this new adventure!!

I think I may have digressed from the topic at hand however the above are things that will assist in rewiring by whole self to become the very best version of myself and therefore reaching self-validation, self worth and most importantly self love!!